Break up advice. What do you do after someone just broke up with you? Or perhaps you just broke up with them?

Let me start by saying that this will be one of the hardest times in your life. Perhaps one of the times that defines your life and who you are.

But the first thing you have to do is ask yourself, is this really what you want? There are avenues you can persue to reconcile the relationship with your ex and I will make some posts on how to go about this over the next day or two.

So if you’re still reading I’ll assume you are going ahead with the breakup and want break up advice. So here’s some things that can help you through this difficult time.

The most important thing to note is that time does heal all wounds. It may seem like there is no light at the end of the tunnel but believe me there is, it is just too far away for you to see right now. Each day is another step towards freedom from your past relationship. It’s normal to feel sad or depressed after a breakup but one day you will wake up and your ex won’t be the first thing on your mind.

Another thing you can do to help the time pass is try to never be alone. Surround yourself with your friends, because who knows your needs better than them? Call your friends over, do something fun with your friends. Distract yourself from the thoughts that will drift back to the break up if left alone.

If you have a hobby you can spend more time doing it, practice your sport more, write more, read more. Do what you enjoy… your relationship probably took time away from the things you enjoy and nows your chance to get back into it the way you used to.

Some other great ways is to talk about it. The internet is fantastic for this. There are forums and chat rooms everywhere and you can always find someone who will listen and understand what you are going through. Remember that you are not alone. Get break up advice from people that have been through it before.

And lastly, and perhaps most importantly… don’t do anything you will regret later. Your emotions are unstable right now and I know you feel like doing things that go against your nature. But you must be strong and resist these urges. Especially if you want to keep your relationship as a friend with your ex partner. Vent to people on the internet! Make use of the tools at your disposal to redirect your anger and depression outwards.

So there you have some great break up advice to help you get through this dark time.